In-laws
Strange thing.
It is strange, i am sitting here and letting the last few weeks run through my mind, and one thing sticks out quite clearly.
Since my Mother inlaw has had her heart attack, she has had to give up smoking. But instead of it helping her and her getting a new grip on life,this triple bypass operation seems to have become an emotional crutch for her. I know that she has always been a bit on the big side,but in recent years, she has put on so much weight, that she looks like (sorry but its not funny) a barrel on legs. She has lost all defintition in her figure, and has put on at least 90kg, but she either doesnt care anymore, or she just doesnt see it.
At one time she used to be quite busy, she used to have a cleaning job, which she used to love, then they had the old aunty living near them (evil old bat) which she cared for and who spent most days at their house, and then they had the little dog with wich she used to go for a walk.
Over the years, the aunt died, the dog had to be put out of his missery (cancer) and she has quit her job cleaning and she has taken to becomming a couch potatoe. I had sugested to the father in law that they might get another dog, but he says its no use, as she didnt go out with the one they had anymore in the end, and he just did his business in the house.
The funny thing is, that she keeps on buying clothes which are way to small for her, and then she wonderes why she does not fit into them. She has gone well over the size xxxl, but keeps on making snide remarks over other fat people, and how awful they look. (Wake up Woman, the people that you are calling fat, are in sizes which you can only dream off)
We have all tried to help her in one way or another, but he seems to have given up on life. She is happy just sitting in her chair, watching her favorite soaps, and feeding her face. Nowadays the Father inlaw has lost all patience with her and just makes snide remarks, even when she is there with him.
This whole situation made the visit of them quite strenous for us, (or should i say for me, as my Husband spent the whole 10 days they were here in his office working, and i had to look after them) and i am not looking forward to the next visit. What do you do with people who you cant take a walk with, who do not go on the beach??? I think i have taken them for enough drives around the island, and somehow i just dont know what they want to do the next time they are here.
I have only so much ironing for her to do, and she can only clean the office once, but after that all there is left for her to do is sit in front of TV and at the dinner table.
Dont take me wrong, i dont mind them visiting, but after a few days they drive me bananas. He does things that get my back up, and she hoards food in the bedroom. One example: I bought some biscuits, and i had two with my coffe in the afternoon. As i came back downstairs a little later, she had finished off the packet. OK no problem, the same procedure the next day. The third day i found out that the father in law had gone to buy some grapes and biscuits, and she had taken them to her bedroom for herself. ???????????? what on earth was that…… I am not used to such behaviour, if i buy something and have visitors, or there are people in the house, i share.
Another time, i was shopping, and it was quite hot. Both had come with me, and as i cam out of the supermarket the father in law was missing. On asking, she told me he had gone back into the supermarket. He returned shortly after, with two small bottles of water, one for her and him. I wasnt even asked. Very strange maners. As we buy all the food when they are here, and i drive them everywhere, is it too much for them to ask me if i would like a drink???
Ah well, never mind, the holiday is over, and we will see what the next few months will bring.
